Sunday, November 22, 2015

Love Poem for LW


For LW

I do not know how I could fall in love
With you so fast it happened by surprise.
I hardly noticed and, not thinking of
You, felt more than now I realize.
It wasn’t your behavior I focused on.
It wasn’t what you said, and yet it was.
More feeling when you’re near and when you’re gone
A happiness which shouldn’t hurt, but does.
It isn’t how you look and, yes, it is:
The way you look at me that makes me melt.
This wasn’t there one day and now it is,
Strange, stronger feelings than I’ve ever felt.
This cannot end well, that I know as sure
As wounds will fester without a healing salve:
My feelings for you one more failure, your
Love something I can never hope to have.
Still I cannot help myself and stop this
Desire which will not stop at just one kiss.


KLK

By Any Other


Analogous to thinking there is only
One god and believing my god differs from
Yours contradicts the one-god theorem,
Belief in no god differs from the lonely
Internal dialog of consciousness
In name only, guidance given we
All get in private, same however you
Express it to yourself without the
Inciting word, whatever words come through,
The process is the same by any name.
What is this which grows in us all like grass
As a child might ask fetching with full hands
These questions in a never-ending game?
Let all assume the same, and let it pass
In knowing without name what understands.

KLK
11-22-15

Monday, February 16, 2015

Political Correctness, Stifle Thyself!


This is not especially for you for any reason other than my hesitation to bring it up to others who are too irrational to discuss most things anyway. Beware! The following contains irony and examples of the very idiocies it seeks to expose. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uQ0SI0R-DmM


When anyone bemoans “Political Correctness” as a sweeping force that curtails free expression of ideas, I am reminded of a wonderful expression attributed to Twain. It covers the impulse to say certain things which may seem in the moment or even as part of an ongoing personal problem like something really clever or insightful to say but easily with a bit of reflection and certainly in retrospect are idiotic right then and at any time short of enough alcohol to inebriate an elephant and no one around but a fly on the wall to hear. Such expressions of opinion or humor or even supposed insight are stupid even drunk and alone, but if one is stupid enough to inflict that level of impairment on oneself and fortunate enough to be alone at that moment, the impulse and stupid expression fit the situation. Justice maintains balance. However, given a chance in company and a lack of impulse control, whether out of exuberance or neediness, the fool thing is out of the mouth, and then the defensiveness rises to protect the so-called ego. The straw specter, that evil shadow Political Correctness, enters on the emotional level of my dog ate my homework.

What I’m driving at is easy to demonstrate through simple questions. What is it anyone refrains from expressing because of so-called political correctness? What is the reason and the intention for expressing the incorrect thing?

I can make a joke here to show I’m not humorless while also demonstrating what I'm getting at.

I make a point of using the N word every day in order to avoid slipping into that Political Correctness funk. (Pause for the horror to spread like the shadow of Political Correctness slipping over freedom of expression.) By the “N word” I mean no, which means no except when I am being ironic.

I can sense that that one has them rolling in the aisles. Thank you. Tip your waitress, whatever her objectionable attitudes or even if she’s a man. Ooh! Is that a slip? I don’t think so. My men never wear slips under their attire.

On the intellectual side, consider arguments which have the form of reasoning but are actually quite without any sense or science. Let’s treat it like an ad for a new app: Think 24. Think 24 wants to share something: Black People…more of them in prison statistically; more likely criminals. It’s that poverty thing and single moms, history of slavery, and anger from so many sources. Here’s another one: Women too emotional for leadership…their reproductive organs just control them. They are inclined to have babies and stay home nurturing. Asian drivers…no Asians in NASCAR or Formula One, few Asian truck drivers in nations outside Asia. How come Orientals [sic] all get glasses so young anyway? White men...can't think of a thing. That might get a laugh. It certainly plays a big part of advertising. 

I need to work on more plausible stupidity of expression. I’m too stupid naturally to rise to a level where I can readily make stupid arguments seem as reasonable as truly stupid persons seem to be able to do consistently.

Let’s take a well-known real-life example. Freakonomics, a popular book which has gained its authors ridiculous credibility, stipulates an infamous connection between a decline in crime rates nationwide in the last quarter of the 20th century and free access to abortion. The authors imply if not declare not merely a positive correlation but also a causal relationship between termination of unwanted pregnancy and reduced crime rates. This is very imaginative indeed if a mind is about as sophisticated as the morality of Charles Dickens’ characters and plots. I am sure the little twerp who came up with it is still delighted every time he thinks of it, and he’d get a hard-on if he had a penis. Unfortunately the lengthy oral ministrations his mother gave him resulted in the loss of manhood completely which is why he grew into the giggling weasel he is to this day, though expressing himself quite often ever since the appropriate bullies were forced to refrain from pummeling him into the isolation and alienation that his genetics and correct social reaction to him ought to have predetermined. In fairness he was in fact probably raised by a single mother too emotional to imbue self-censorship because of her disappointment at not being accepted on the racist talk show circuit. It’s a well-known fact that men think with the genitals so I can’t help but express myself this way. Go ahead and criticize me reasonably. I have my Political Correctness card ready.

A friend who is often quite insightful made a particularly bad argument. From his own experience, always a bad sign, he stated that women who beat out men for acceptance to higher education and even jobs were more likely to become stay-at-home mothers and so should not be considered as seriously for the jobs or those competitive spots in education. You see, they were depriving men who would have to be the sole supporters of families of those positions, those opportunities. Setting aside the devaluation of the importance of child-rearing, for we all know a care-giver at home running a household and raising kids can be a chimpanzee or howler monkey with no education or work experience and still do a bang-up job, let's consider first the concept of merit and deserving because we earn it. A rich person who becomes a selfish pig cannot be deprived of his wealth on the basis that he is not doing as much with it as someone else might. He earned it, we assert, however ludicrous that may be. Similarly, if a person, man or woman, wants to outperform academically and then out-compete vocationally other applicants, and then walk away, how is it any more prone to societal correction than the rich who do not use their wealth for better purposes? The other interesting circular argument in my friend's reasoning is that women are more likely, at least in his experience, to decide to raise the kids and not work outside the home. Of course he is aware of single moms, his mom having been a single mom for at least part of his childhood and youth. Somehow that didn't rise to a level he could identify and acknowledge that not all mothers raising kids are solely raising kids. Nor does the fact men can't get pregnant somehow eliminate a woman's biological role in reproduction as a basis for depriving them of equal opportunity. No. It is a stronger reason. Men can't get pregnant so they must be given the edge over the more qualified child-bearing sex. Mmm, yes. The fact women bear the initial brunt of our species’ survival is commonly used to marginalize their aspirations everywhere else. Even when we celebrate motherhood, it's often a way of keeping anyone in those roles inferior to the Big People who go out and EARN a Living in the Market, you weaker creature at home, man or woman. Weak loser, no status, my money, me, me, mine. Spray with disinfectant and disrepute of choice; just kill all the cootie loser germ-gene.

I hope I am giving ample evidence. That Twain quote, paraphrased, better to keep your mouth shut and let others wonder about how weak your thinking is rather than open it and remove all doubt could as well apply to me, trying to work my way out of my impulses and idiocy when grappling with these concepts and emotions.

Political Correctness as a concept is itself a straw man. There is no such thing separate from two other behavioral characteristics, which serve better to explain, and to reveal, what this political correctness critique is all about.

The first is a tendency towards sociability, the desire to get along and fit in. In terms of the political correctness red herring it works two ways: First, we don’t want to insult and alienate others; second, we want to insinuate ourselves closer to a group by expressing the same misguided interpretations of the world and by doing so avoid scrutiny ourselves. I'm like you, so pay no attention to the moron behind the curtain of stupid expression. That way everyone can feel like “community” at the stag party or cross burning.

The second behavioral characteristic is prejudice. Political Correctness is code for rationalized prejudice, plain and simple, for bad thinking all around with the intent to marginalize, stigmatize, and isolate as preparation for doing material harm personally, legally, physically, and encouraging others to join in or at least stand by idle, while groups are considered and treated unjustly. There is no politically incorrect statement which has any other intention, and none of them leads directly to fresh and exciting insights on old ills of the human condition.

As a final proof consider the ways I have expressed myself here. Choose the parts that are rhetorically superior and those that are decidedly inferior in terms of persuasiveness. I suggest all of us need to work all the time to express our ideas better and less ourselves at our emotional worst, which includes thinking better of what is best left unexpressed if its expression is resentment or veiled hatred, open anger, like so much flatulence from a steady diet of bad ideas and worse ways of interpreting information: in short things appropriate to disaffected adolescents or small children still learning how to get their needs met.

KLK

Friday, January 2, 2015

Exaggeration and the Culture of Self-Deception


There is a common tendency to embellish and exaggerate. It starts with language at the most rudimentary levels of expression, which is the anteroom to all further understanding. Consider the overuse of "very" and the superlative, and also adding unnecessary words in order to make a statement emphatic. One example, the word literally comes to mind. In these moments of casual speech the subconscious emerges. Here we see a lack of confidence the plain statement will carry enough power to get the message across. No one will pay attention unless the words show something extraordinary. Everyone is after all already there in that heightened state of extremes. To enter into the same level of cacophony we must join the fray bare chested with a bloody blade bare, and apparently naked, simple words are inadequate, even if all we wanted was a Pepsi.

Setting aside for the moment the psychological source, a feeling, however slight, of inadequacy to have one's needs met and to be taken seriously, I want to point out how hyperbole in speech has parallels in feeling and conception. Ideas, and things, and people get embellished, splattered and slathered thickly with the same verbal brush. Not only in conversation, we see this also in advertising. A mundane product gets a ticker tape parade and fanfare beyond excellence. The spokespersons can barely contain their excitement over this floor cleaner. Any product or service presented with a manic voice becomes compelling. Maybe it will save my life and make me an exaggerated dynamo of persuasion. Who knew hair removal could be this exciting, or hair replacement? Order now and get hair removed and replaced with free shipping.

Does anyone believe in free shipping, by the way? Really? There's another symptom of the same mindset: the challenge of "really" confirming the lack of acceptance of anything stated at a normal volume. That deserves more attention.

A small step from advertising, a giant leap to self-promotion, we find a large territory of our social lives affected by this, from personal relationships and friendships, to jobs and career, through reporting and news and beyond to biography, and history. Science may be a last bastion against it. Exaggerations and distortions in these arenas have a huge impact on our personal, private and public lives. Our understanding of others and ourselves, of the world, our very identity, starts in these small ways. We are encouraged to create these distortions starting with our self-talk and self-representation. Later there are incentives for pressing the hyperbole to astronomical proportions.

I have never cared for it. Every day in every way we merely become more and more ludicrous. By practicing self-affirmation rather than candid assessment as a starting point for action, we disable our effectiveness in favor of the perception of it, the illusion of actual competence. There is a limit to how far belief leads to success, despite what self-help and motivational gurus sell using the same method of overstatement.

Let's back up. It should go without saying that I'm okay and you're okay. The first symptom of a problem is the assumption of a right to accept or reject as if it were a death sentence or an express to Heaven or Hell, eternal damnation or salvation in an uttered word. Every instance is not so dire or permanent. It is neither the end nor the beginning, but in medias res, the permanent middle and so by that alone ought to mitigate this tendency to exaggerate and never scale back, one extreme or another, total dominance, utter submission, right hand of God or banished to contrition. No wonder people are so angry and uncertain of themselves; they die the death of a thousand cuts each day based on their speech, clothes, and car, choice of food, where they went for summer camp in eighth grade, and who sat with them at lunch when they matriculated at a state college rather than Harvard, or failed to capitalize on that Ivy League baton of Caesar, skinny little wimp commanding the legions on the steppes as the hordes approach. Picture it, the wind blowing through the luscious locks...hair replacement and free shipping.

It's actually the assumption of power that allows this dynamic to establish itself. I have something you want, perhaps as basic as attention. So I have the power and can, because I feel inadequate as my morning pep talk fades, look at others as wanting. I got to the party first and settled in, and so the later arrivals get the eye. Isn't that a pathetic mindset? I am uniquely fortunate having undergone ritual exoneration. No animals were harmed in the process. Common snobbery over language and protocol are my favorites. I have had to work hard to get over petty distinctions and breaches of my own imaginary ceremoniousness to say nothing of my fabulous je ne sais quoi. I have been on the other side, you see, when a barbarian corrected me incorrectly. Having a fertile intellect and active powers of reflection, I realized it was and had always been about control and power in the situation, not based on anything else.

There are other reasons why our consciousness works this way but for our purpose here, we must look on those as rationalizations. Are Elizabethan plays, not the least Shakespeare, any less interesting because of the spelling? A truth in any other form is just as true if unheralded by an entourage of verbal criers. Exaggeration and power work together to move us away from the practical, from what is accurate for some purpose. Exaggeration itself has a rhetorical purpose of course; it is a tool of rhetoric, of persuasion. The reason for its prevalence has to do with underlying psychological and personality deficiencies of our times. All the ways exaggeration has crept into our consciousness connect in what developmental levels have gained influence culturally. Immaturity and inadequacy have trumped confidence and demonstrated competence. Exaggeration is part of making myths and also lying -- first to ourselves and then about everything until we distort the universe, at least in our minds. At worst it informs our decisions and causes overreaction, or a total lack of response. Global climate change is a good example. The best discussions are at the edges of the debate, while everyone else just froths as if limbs were being hacked and strewn about a battlefield.

Gorillas are popularly considered violent. Chimpanzees are cute. Factually chimps are more dangerous particularly as they mature. Exaggeration is something like that in humans. More to come, more to consider.